Muslim Marriage Tips: The Holy Criteria
Tuesday, January 12, 2010 Read more → islam, marriage, marriage series, muslimmarriage, relationship, series, top tips In the name of God, entirely Compassionate, especially Merciful | Peace be with you
In the name of God, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ Peace be with you السلام عليكم
Islam is a model based on social rights for everyone. You have rights under Islamic law and Islam encourages a balanced attitude towards them by saying don't worry about your rights so much but look to your responsibilities. Don't spend your life fighting for your rights, and don't relinquish your responsibilities because you will be accountable for them, not your rights. The Prophet Muhammad, may God's peace be with him, was a man who always ensured his responsibilities were fufiled towards others, but sometimes (many times) his rights weren't fulfilled, yet he didn't go around getting recompensed for it all. He let it go.
Marriage is therefore primarily a contractual agreement based on the model of rights for everyone, and not a sacrament,. I mean it is sacred, it brings people spiritually closer to Allah, but that's not to say you cannot become more pious without marrying. Marrying prevents bad health: contagious diseases (STDs), social diseases such as loneliness, depression and emotional/psychological diseases where singletons get their kicks through unmentionable means. Marriage secures the chastity of individuals by allowing expressions of 'halal love' within huge boundaries.
As an introduction to marriage for the Single Muslim Scene we will analyse two fundamental ahadith (sayings) of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ. These ahadith are used to evaluate the criteria of a potential partner and to place some important ideas in the minds of singletons. The first hadith (saying) is aimed primarily at men, the second hadith is aimed at women.
Firstly, the Prophet Muhammad's ﷺ famous saying:
"A woman is married for four reasons, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her piety. So you should marry the pious woman otherwise you will be losers."
Narrated by Abu Huraira, in Sahih al-Bukhari & Muslim (Book 62:27, Marriage)
Secondly, the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said regarding men:
"Whoever comes to you and you're pleased with their deen and character (khuluq) marry them!"
What do these mean to you? Did you use these sayings as your criteria?
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